A few months ago I hatched the idea of How To Grow A Baby.  Everyone thought it was brilliant. But I’m going to share something with you.  I wasn’t so sure.  Yes, I know how to eat while pregnant.  Yes, I know how to mitigate morning sickness and cravings. Yes, I know how to lose baby weight while nursing.  Yes, I know how to introduce solids to an infant to achieve optimal health.  But did I REALLY know how to get pregnant faster?  I certainly didn’t have a good track record.

So, one night in October, I threw an idea out to my husband and asked what he thought about trying for another child.  “No peeing on sticks”, I said.  “Let’s just try and
see what happens.  If it doesn’t work, no big deal.”

Guess what?  It worked!

14 weeks ago I became the girl who got pregnant ON THE FIRST TRY.  Isn’t that UNBELIEVABLE?!?!

The. First. Try.

I’m still not sure I believe it myself.  I cured my infertility!!  No.  Wait.  It was more than that.  I AM FERTILE.

Now, I’m sure you’re thinking, that’s lovely, right?  Congratulations, but what does that get ME?  What did you do differently??

There are three components:

PHYSICAL. 

This is kind of the obvious one, right?  The past year or so I’ve changed my diet and my environment radically.  I’ve focused on my health.  I removed the toxins by detoxing both my body and my home.  I started eating the foods that my children needed to eat to thrive and grow (which happen to be the same foods that you need to grow a healthy baby).

EMOTIONAL.

For the first time in a very long time, I began to accept and love who I am.  I traded in judgement, for curiosity.  I stopped hating my body because it had failed me and began to get connected with how my body was capable of healing itself from the years of damage I had done to it.

CONNECTION.

This one is the doozy. And, frankly, it is the one I’m least comfortable talking about.  I began digging into old issues so I could release them.  I did this in an effort to improve the relationship I had with my husband.  Marriage, like any relationship, takes a lot of work.  I think infertility took a much larger toll on us than I had initially realized.  I had been so focused on making a baby, and creating a life, that the energy supposed to produce this life somehow disappeared.  My 2^nd child was conceived without my husband being in the same room with me.  Heck, he wasn’t even in the building.

THIS IS WHAT INFERTILITY STRIPS YOU OF.

So suffice to say this child was conceived in love and partnership with my husband.
The moment was about being connected, not about me needing his sperm at that exact moment.

I’d love to talk with you more about this.  If you are trying to get pregnant, I’d like to invite you to a f.r.e.e. How To Grow A Baby Discovery Session where you’ll learn important things such as:

• How To Increase Fertility Naturally
• How To Turn Anger and Frustration into Excitement and Hope
• How To Prepare Your Body for the Healthiest Possible Pregnancy
• How to Change Desperation into Empowerment and Connection

Schedule your free 20 minute breakthrough strategy session with me by clicking the link
below.

https://my.timedriver.com/TZMVM

I’ve learned so much in this journey….and I cannot wait to share it with you!

She had two children.  Naturally.  She cured her endometriosis by making RADICAL changes to her diet and lifestyle.  She made sacrifices not everyone is prepared to make in order for her dreams to come true.  I had the good fortune of knowing this woman personally and the information she shared with me changed my life.

What so many women struggling to conceive don’t realize if you have a lot more control that you realize.  Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying do XYZ and you are going to get pregnant next month.  Or even two months from now.  Every situation is different and there are some cases that cannot be changed no matter what a person does.

But, I get it.  I’ve been in your shoes, and for the sake of argument, I’m not going to say nutrition can make a difference in your case.  I won’t even say the presence of numerous (avoidable) environmental toxins make a difference.  They do for some, but maybe it won’t help you.  I’m not willing to make false promises….you’ve had enough disappointment.

What I CAN promise you is that you can take control over certain things.  You can help your cause.  And, I think this is a really important mindset shift we need to make when dealing with a health issue:  we take control where we can.

For women trying to conceive, you have control over your diet, and your toxic load.  You can take control of preparing your body to be the best host environment to grow a baby.  I’ve discussed the importance of this in previous posts, but you have such an advantage over a woman who gets pregnant and was eating McDonald’s and drunk the week before she got pregnant.

They say everything happens for a reason.  So let’s flip that mental switch in your head and make a shift so this extra time you have works for you.  Let’s make this the best thing that ever happened to you.  Let’s PREPARE to grow a healthy baby.  You’ve got the time, so let’s use it!

Schedule your free 20 minute breakthrough strategy session with me by clicking the link below.

https://my.timedriver.com/TZMVM

After I’d gone back inside, the neighbor called.  I didn’t answer the phone.  I couldn’t talk to her.  I didn’t know what to say.  As she spoke into our answering machine, explaining the excitement of watching her daughter ride her bike for the very first time; she apologized for her behavior.  Clearly, she had no idea why I was staring at her.  She assumed I thought she was nuts; no idea that I’d stood there, dumbfounded, wondering if I’d ever have that moment of my own. There was not judgement on my end.  Simply a desperate wanna-be-Mom who had invaded her privacy and stolen some her moment for myself.

What was supposed to be a simple walk to the mailbox turned into a painful reminder of what everyone else around me seemed to have.  Unfortunately, for someone struggling with infertility, these moments are everywhere. Babies and parents surround you.  In magazines, in cars, in the grocery store, on TV.  It is hard to escape.  Hard to find a place where you feel safe from the endless reminders of what you don’t have.  What you can’t seem to achieve no matter how hard you wish and pray.  What’s worse, you can’t tell your best friend/sister/old college roommate that you are unable to share her enthusiasm for her children.

I wouldn’t wish infertility on my worst enemy.  It changes you.  It paralyzes you.  You want to move forward with your life, your plans.  But you can’t.  What if next month is the month you get pregnant?

Of course, with hindsight, we have clarity.  I’m excited to share my knowledge of nutrition and my clarity from experience with you.  But, first, I’m going to tell you the whole story.  Even better, I’m going to let you watch me heal.  Sure, I’ve healed my body…but the emotional scars still run deep.

Please stay tuned if you want to watch MY journey.  I’ve got some really juicy stuff to share with you.

If you are suffering quietly with infertility, please contact me today for a completely PRIVATE, confidential and FREE, 20 minute breakthrough session:  https://my.timedriver.com/TZMVM or call for an appointment (301) 565-4924.

Here is the deal.  Sometimes the worst things that happen to us are the best thing for us.  We simply have to be willing to open our eyes and look past the immediate pain of a situation.

Infertility allows you a gift that those woman who are able to knock back a couple glasses of wine, have a romp in the hay and end up pregnant, simply do not have.

TIME.

(And, yeah, I hear you, you’d rather not have the extra time.  Just stick with me here….)

I think it is fair to say nourishing and creating life is the biggest endeavor your body undertakes.  Yet, so many people don’t prepare properly for the occasion.  Truth be told, most people spend more time preparing for Christmas than they do pregnancy.  Would you ever dream of running a marathon without preparing for it?  Of course not.  PREPARING to become pregnant is no different.  Everyone is so focused on getting pregnant, being pregnant, having a baby.  Why don’t more people talk about what you should be doing BEFORE YOU GET PREGANT?  What you should to do to nourish, create and build a healthy life?

So, I hear you, maybe you’d rather not have this extra time.  But, it’s yours.  So let’s use it wisely.  Schedule your free 20 minute breakthrough strategy session with me by clicking the link below.

https://my.timedriver.com/TZMVM

It is INFERTILITY.

Sure, I’ve eluded to it.  I’ve casually mentioned it on my website, or in conversations with clients.  But, I’ve never really cracked it wide open like I’m about to.

And, you know what?  It scares the you know what out of me.

I like to hope that we’re all put on this earth to do something special.  For such a long time I didn’t know what I was here to do.  I floundered from job to job looking for my place.  For something I was REALLY good at.  Something that made me special.  For a long time, I thought that was going to be me being a Mom.  So imagine my devastation when at the ripe “old” age of 31 a doctor told me I couldn’t have babies on my own.  I’ll NEVER FORGET that moment.  Sitting at my kitchen table.  For some reason, the person I wanted to tell was my Nana.  I called her and cried to her; sharing my fears and my crushed dreams.  There wasn’t anything that she, or anyone else, could have possibly said that would have made me feel better.

And so a journey began.  Filled with emotions only someone going through infertility could understand.  Heartache.  Fear.  Frustration.  Shame. Anger.  And, fleeting moments of joy and hope.  I dove deep into an online community of similarly tortured women who all understood what I was feeling.  It was the only thing that got me through those years and for that I will be forever grateful.  You know who you are and I thank you from the bottom of my soul.  Only you can understand why I am still sitting here and crying…even though years have passed.

Only a women that has walked in these shoes can understand.  Others might think they can.  I’m sorry, you just can’t. You do not understand the pain of fearing you may never reach your dream of being a Mom.  So we seek out others like us.  We whisper to each
other.  And it is for this reason I need to tell my story.  It is for this reason that I can now see why I was put here to serve a mission.

That feeling of having no control over any of it was just the worst.  I spent hours online trolling the internet for some shred of information that might make me fertile again.  Heck, I didn’t even need to be fertile.  I just wanted the fertility treatments to work.  I clung desperately to stories of pineapple cores and bromelaine.

My infertility experience is what brought me to nutrition.  I used food to heal my body.  I use food to prevent infertility in my own children.  I use my knowledge of food every day.  Now it is time that I break my silence and share my entire story and allow all my gifts to help empower the women who desperately want to be Mommy.

I’m ready to open up and share my journey with others that might desperately cling to the information I now have.  The information I wish I’d had all those years ago.

If you are suffering quietly with infertility, please contact me today for a completely PRIVATE, confidential and FREE, 20 minute breakthrough session:  https://my.timedriver.com/TZMVM or call for an appointment (301) 565-4924.